Making It In High Heels

Inspiring Stories by Women for Women of All Ages

A couple of weeks ago I heard a very inspiring sermon at church regarding the differences between males and females. The message taught me a valuable lesson and I want to share it with you.

In general, men are task oriented, results driven and competitive

In general, women are relationship builders and strive towards co-operation and care

If, (in the general sense) this is true, how do women and men relate to one another and are we not at odds? I have behaved much like a man during the past five years of singledom. I have enjoyed the pursuit; the game of seeking, finding and then becoming bored once the goal was achieved. As a result of my actions, there have been many times I’ve ignored family and friends because of the mission to achieve a task. This is not a healthy way to live and is the direct opposite of my true desires - to be in loving relationships with family, friends and one special man. Back in high school and all through my twenties, my Mother used to tell me;

‘Let the boys pursue you’

I would shake my head in disbelief. Today, I can see that she was on to something because my previous pursuits were disasterous! My new strategy brings an end to game playing and role reversals. I will allow the ‘goal oriented males’ to seek me out while I focus on building solid relationships. This is not to say that I will become meak and docile (not within my nature), this means giving up issues of control and allowing life to flow and ebb as it naturally should.

I welcome your comments!

Lisa Bradburn