Making It In High Heels

Inspiring Stories by Women for Women of All Ages

A couple of weeks ago I heard a very inspiring sermon at church regarding the differences between males and females. The message taught me a valuable lesson and I want to share it with you.

In general, men are task oriented, results driven and competitive

In general, women are relationship builders and strive towards co-operation and care

If, (in the general sense) this is true, how do women and men relate to one another and are we not at odds? I have behaved much like a man during the past five years of singledom. I have enjoyed the pursuit; the game of seeking, finding and then becoming bored once the goal was achieved. As a result of my actions, there have been many times I’ve ignored family and friends because of the mission to achieve a task. This is not a healthy way to live and is the direct opposite of my true desires - to be in loving relationships with family, friends and one special man. Back in high school and all through my twenties, my Mother used to tell me;

‘Let the boys pursue you’

I would shake my head in disbelief. Today, I can see that she was on to something because my previous pursuits were disasterous! My new strategy brings an end to game playing and role reversals. I will allow the ‘goal oriented males’ to seek me out while I focus on building solid relationships. This is not to say that I will become meak and docile (not within my nature), this means giving up issues of control and allowing life to flow and ebb as it naturally should.

I welcome your comments!

Lisa Bradburn

Antonietta allows us into her past,  her childhood experiences, and her inner-most memories of her troubled family life.  She carries on to recall high school being her darkest days, filled with racial tension and derogatory comments, struggles with her classes, and embarrassment to ask for help.

Antonietta talks of relationships in high school and how her bottled up insecurity and stress eventually got the better of her. Through countless encounters of struggle, Antonietta clearly talks to the readers of Making It In High Heels with a different perspective…one she achieved through growing up and acceptance.

~I had never had any mentors in my life. Most people looked to their parents for mentoring or idealism, but mine were the last people I was likely to look to. Instead, I resented and blamed them for all the struggles and stress in my life. I made it my mission to prove that I can do better. I had always wanted so much from them that I was blind to what I already had. My mother always told me that I had to stop blaming others,; I have looked at underlying reasons and I’m an adult and I do take responsibilities for my actions and choices.~

To read the entire entry by Antonietta Robino,  pre-order your copy of Making It In High Heels now.  Hers and many other inspirational stories await you!

Miriam Cohen writes of the self-worth she dicovered following a three year on-again-off-again relationship.

Relationships account for a very large percentage of eye-opening experiences in many womens lives. Miriam’s relationship had its faults, and although she was not entirely happy at all times, she was in love, and was devistated to find out she had been cheated on.

Miriam takes us through the break-up by sharing the emotions that were felt, as well as the choices she made to accept and grow from the experience.

~On December 31st, I woke up feeling ill. I had promised a friend that I would take her step calss in the morning.  I know myself and I know that the quickest way to cheer myself up is by working out.  I tried to eat breakfast, but could barely touch my cereal. Every time I thought of eating, I would feel sick, but I knew I had to have something; especially since I was heading to the gym. As I drove, I kept trying to push the images of him cheating out of my head. I reminded myself that I as able to get over my first love; and the first cut its the deepest, so I knew that one day I would look back on this and laugh at myself for being so naive.~

For more inspiration, read the book Making It In High Heels, or post a comment or question for any of the girls right here!  Feel free to submit your own relationship stories to provide insight and inspiration to other woman.

Francesca Ortepi is one of those women who appears to have everything going for her.  A good relationship, a supportive family, solid friendships, and a great career.

Making It In High Heels is a book of struggles and life altering moments and decisions that shape us into who we are today.  With that being said, Francesca’s story reveals how looks can be deceiving, and she too has had hurdles to overcome in order to be where she is today.

Francesca recalls her troubles really beginning in high school, as do so many of the other stories shared in this book.  Abusing drugs and alcohol, skipping school and misbehaving were all part of Francesca’s journey.

By the end of her high school years, she had straightened out enough to realize the importance of an education, and ended up loving her chosen field of study.  Francesca writes of love, hurt, and loss and what she has learned about people she refers to as “feeders”.

~ The people who know me can attest to the fact that I’m a very giving and nurturing person.  I’m the type of person who would give away the shirt off my back and the last five bucks in my pocket.  But for some, give them an inch and they want a mile.  Nothing is ever good enough and kindness is mistaken for weakness. I call these people “feeders”. Feeders steal your positive energy and if you’re not careful, they’ll suck the life out of you.~

As life continues, we are constantly on a journey. Francesca refers to this journey as the steps in her staircase to life. To read more about Francesca pre-order Making It In High Heels.  For more inspiration, leave a comment or message for Francesca and start climbing the stairs!!!

Bev Isla has struggled for years trying to find her place.  Each job she had, she would come to lose, and each relationship has encountered hard times.  Bev has realized that her relationship strains have stemmed from her being unhappy within her work-place and within herself.  Determined to make change happen, Bev has gained experience and a new sense of direction through volunteer work which has also given her new skills, and new-found confidence.

Sometimes trial and error lead us to where we are meant to be. Bev shares hers with the readers of Making It In High Heels, and the message that she sends out is clear.

~ I have to trust that challenging experiences are not meant to destroy, but to build.  Focus on positive thought and move from disbelieving to believing, and you’ll shape your dream future.  Everyday, I make the choice to do exactly that. ~

This story will inspire anyone who has struggled to make ends meet, anyone who has been faced with change, and all of us who want choose happiness!  Read Bev’s complete story by pre-ordering your copy of Making It In High Heels, which will hit stores this holiday season!