Making It In High Heels

Inspiring Stories by Women for Women of All Ages

The Ontario government recently passed a law permitting all adoption cases to become open and information on birth parents and adopted children will become public knowledge by June 1 2009.

How does this affect individuals?

In 1976 my Birth Mother was 17 years of age when she gave me up for adoption.  Under the current adoption laws, I do not know her last name, her whereabouts, our shared ethnic background or family medical history.  Once the disclosure agreement takes place on June 1 2009, all of this information will become available- however there is a catch. Should my Birth Mother become aware of this law, she can contact the Government of Ontario by June 1, 09 to ensure that her record remains closed. The challenge is that the Government is not widely advertising this new law therefore many Birth Parents who are not familiar with the changes may be faced with an unexpected call or visit from the adopted child.

At age 25 the Children’s Aid Society informed me that my Birth Mother was not at a point in her life where she was able to meet me. I respect and accept her decision.  I am able to look at the new laws objectively and foresee both positive and painful outcomes. My hope is that children who are adopted and seeking their identities will keep in mind the desires of their Birth Parents and the potential repercussions before making initial contact.

I look forward to your thoughts

Lisa

Lisa Bradburns entry in Making It In High Heels is one full of complexity.  She touches on several life altering circumstances with maturity, understanding and acceptance.  Lisa has experienced some of life’s toughest challenges, and has emerged self confidant, open and forgiving.

From adoption, addiction and parental divorce, to traveling, love, long distance romance, fate, healing and forgiveness;I certainly felt the heaviness of Lisa’s story.

So many of us face circumstantial misfortune in our lives, which often stems from our childhood experiences and the adults around us.  This is exactly what Lisa writes of.  She clearly recalls emotions, thoughts and choices she made from teen years into adulthood.  Lisa touches on love found, love lost, and everything in between.

~ With age, my harshness has softened as I understand their humanness; especially when visualizing my parents’ own periods of immense growth post marital breakup.  It can be a dangerous game to fantasize over who I would be if another couple walked into that waiting room so many years back.  I am who I am through them, through thick and thin.~

In many cases of personal tragedy, no matter what it is, we are forced to look deep inside to find strength to pull us out of despair, to set us back up on our feet, and to find the desire to fight back.  The fight to overcome tough times is often done with the help of inspiration.  Lisa shares how she found hers.

To read Lisa’s story, and 38 others, pre-order Making It In High Heels now!  The book will be released in time for the holiday season, which would also make it a great gift idea!